My boyfriend doesn't love me as much as I love him!




When you feel like your partner is not loving you ‘enough’ consider that you are looking at ways to receive love in the same way that you are giving love!


He might show you love and appreciation in a different way that you are loving him or have been loved previously.


He might be less expressive than you and his capacity to show affection and swoon you with long poetic rants about his feelings for you, might be much smaller than yours.


You’re most likely loving each other in two different ways.


Do you feel the same type of love in this relationship than in your previous? Haven’t you been able to describe your love in previous relationships with different words?


It all falls under the category - or umbrella if you want - of love but it feels slightly different every time.


Love can look and feel very different, but that doesn’t mean that some is more or less, or better or worse than the other.


You might see him as selfish and not considerate of your feelings which might be true, but not necessarily something he is doing intentionally.


Have you always been the pleaser; looking out for everyone and feeling your best when you could help someone? If he’s not a pleaser, then there's your first disconnect! He only gives when he has something to offer and doesn't just give to give. This might be the reason you fell in love with him in the first place because he has something that you need! The ability to preserve his energy so he doesn’t run out - like you do every so often.


But it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you with everything that he got!!


Let’s say that you’re not where you want to be. That this relationship is really not giving you what you want and need because he doesn't’ give you what you want and need.


Why are you there? Do you claim you love him? How can you love a person that doesn’t reflect all your awesomeness back to you just like you do to him?


Let me explain; I don't believe in one-sided love!


I don’t believe that someone can be in love with a person who doesn’t love them back. I believe they can be in love with the idea of, and love the concept of. But the person, I don’t buy that!


Of course this person has many amazing qualities that you admire and want in a partner. All people on this planet have amazing gifts, talents and qualities that put in the right environment will blossom and shine for everyone to see. So I get why it can be confusing to realize that you’re more in love with the idea of a relationship than the person representing the relationship.


Last but not least, know that you can not expect him to fill you up! You can not expect him to make you feel secure, safe and loved at all times. It has to exist within you for him to even spark it in you.


So hopefully I’ve challenged your perspective enough for you to never again make the statement; He doesn’t love me as much as I love him!




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